Adam's cousin Luke was showing how to play, he showed him how to drink the water from it and spit it back out.
Here's Adam on his tippy-toes and trying to get the water in his mouth, but just isn't big enough.
So I thought it would be a little while longer before I experienced the whole 'bullying' thing. What do you do as a mom? It really wasn't that bad of stuff, but it happened three times while we were at the splash park and I just know it made me angry. When it happened the first time, I was Infierno!(I know it doesn't mean angry, but that's what I mean when I say it, so say it with a Spanish accent) and I just wanted to boot the punk kid that was picking on Adam. He definitely knew better, he looked about 4 or 5ish. So I'm getting heated up again just thinking about it, I guess because Adam is such a little guy still. The kid was kicking water in Adam's face and wouldn't stop when Adam was obviously trying to turn away from him. The next time he was running past Adam at his little toy and just stopped, turned and pushed Adam down and then kept running to where ever, and the last time, he came over to the same toy and got water in his mouth turned his head about 3 inches from Adam and spit the water in his face. What are the rules on the playground for the Moms? When it happens more than a couple times, do you do something or just remove your child from the situation? There were no tears or words exchanges, so it's not that big of a deal, but I'm just curious.
8 comments:
holy crap that little boy of yours is just the cutest ever!!! what fun!
about the bullying... i got ticked off just reading it... Jess, this is my take on the whole bullying issue.
You are your kids' own and only advocate and you have every right to ask the little punk to knock it off... if the other Mom gets involved in a negative way... deck the crap out of her... we all know you've got the guns for it!! :) haha, no, really don't.... you'd go to jail for assault!! haha, but i'd love to see it! anyway, i don't know of any mom out there who wouldn't be on your side when it comes to bullying... even the bully's mom (i'm sadly the bully's mom... it gets really embarrassing when i see Ava swat at a 5 year old kid who's touching "HER" water or "HER" slide... not cool) but for now where Adam isn't fazed at all about it... probably no biggie yet... but really don't hesitate to put the little punk kids in their place!
whew, that was a long comment!
I have had that happen to Dyllon and Garrett. If the other mom doesn't say anything I would definately go up to the kid and say something to him like "you need to play nice, he's just a little guy". It bugs me when people don't pay attention to their kids because if it were my kids doing it to another I would go get him. But your little guy took it in stride and he is soooo cute.
Love the pictures of Adam! He's such a cutie! I don't have any life experience to speak from with the bullying matter, but I think it's fine if you say something to the punk kid, especially after a third time. Like you said, he should know better. If another mom does get involved, then just calmly explain why you don't want her kid spitting in your kids' face (very unhygenic) and that he's only one, so her snotty 5 year old shouldn't be pushing you're adorable one year old down. (of course you might not want to use the word "snotty"). That's a tough situation though.
P.S. Sorry I haven't called you back yet. My mom just found out yesterday that she's going back to work. I don't want to call on a Sunday, so I'll call you tomorrow. :)
Adam is a doll! Does that kid ever not smile? :) As for the bully thing, Dallin had that problem in daycare I guess because he was so small for his age. My biggest concern was he would think it was OK to pick on kids smaller than him because kids bigger than him were picking on him. I think if asking the child to stop isn't working, I would totally talk to the parent. However, I would make sure I approached the mom with the attitude that her kid isn't a bully, saying something like, "I know you son is wanting to be silly and play with my son, by my son isn't really wanting to play with him. Would yo mind asking him to stop?" Maybe not that corny, but you get the idea. If you approach with the attitude that her son is totally wrong, you might have an instant confrontation. I mean, obviously she doesn't think there is anything wrong in her kids behavior or most normal parents would have already stopped the behavior. I don;t know if this helps, be it's what I do. Maybe I'm too passive, but I don;t like to make a big deal so I try not to place blame on either child (even though both you and I know which kid is wrong. :) Just the ramblings of a mom trying to figure it out as she goes. Take it or leave it. Good Luck!
I agree with Katy! You are your kids advocate and you have every right to tell the kid to knock it off.
I don't know about some moms but if I were to see Bryce doing that(which unfortunately I have) I immediately remove him from there for a time out. He does not need to treat any other child that way, EVER.
I think you were justified in you anger especially when Adam is so young and may not know how to defend himself quite yet. The little boy knew better.
How fun! That looks like so much fun, you get the fun of water with the dangers of it!
Wow that is awful that he was being picked on! I have no idea what I would do! I love the fun pictures though looks like he was having fun when he wasn't being picked on!
Agreed with all... It's okay to feel angry...You don't mess with momma bear. I know I don't have kids but in dealing with kids and parents on both sides in a daycare situation. I would have to say if the child continues politey warn him to stop. If mom comes over to see what the problem is. Just politley explain to her the situation and what you said to the child. If she disagrees tell her "TO GROW UP AND WATCH HER KIDS LIKE SHE SHOULD BE DOING"!!!! Than do as Katy suggests and Deck her. 80) LOL
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